Topic
Relationships
23 articles
Attachment Theory: The Blueprint You Got Before You Could Speak
You learned what to expect from people before you had words to argue with it. That expectation is still running — and it is less fixed than the internet tells you.
July 24, 2026
Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Relationship: The Asymmetry Test
You can recite the signs of an emotionally abusive relationship. So why can't you tell if you're in one? The test the checklists skip.
June 29, 2026
Signs of Emotional Abuse: Why It's So Hard to See From Inside
Every list of emotional abuse signs assumes recognising it is the easy part. It isn't — and the doubt you're feeling is closer to the answer than the checklist is.
June 19, 2026
Emotionally Abusive Relationship: Why You Can't Just Leave
You can list the signs. So why are you still there? The mechanism that traps a self-aware person in an emotionally abusive relationship.
June 16, 2026
Signs of a Controlling Partner: When Care Becomes Control
The signs of a controlling partner are hard to spot because control arrives as care. The one test that tells control from caring — and when it becomes abuse.
June 14, 2026
A Husband's Anger Problem — Anger, or Coercive Control?
A husband's anger problem isn't always abuse — and isn't always safe. The line between the two is the first thing you need, and almost no one draws it.
June 13, 2026
Enmeshed Relationship: When Love Becomes Losing Yourself
An enmeshed relationship feels like total love. It's actually the quiet loss of a separate self — and love needs two selves to exist at all.
June 10, 2026
Why Do I Attract Narcissists? The Real Pattern Underneath
You don't attract narcissists. You tolerate them — because a nervous system raised on inconsistent love mistakes the familiar for the safe.
June 7, 2026
Limerence vs Love: How to Tell the Fixation From the Real Thing
Limerence usually feels stronger than love — and that intensity is exactly why people mistake the fixation for the real thing. Here is how to tell.
June 3, 2026
How to Rebuild Trust in a Relationship — and When Not To
Trust isn't rebuilt by apology or reassurance. It's rebuilt by evidence over time — and sometimes the honest answer is that it shouldn't be rebuilt at all.
June 2, 2026
Daughters of Narcissistic Fathers: The Two Hidden Roles
Daughters of narcissistic fathers aren't all the same. The same man casts two very different roles — and which one you got explains the rest.
May 31, 2026
How to Leave a Toxic Relationship (When You Can't Seem To)
The reason you can't leave a toxic relationship isn't weakness — it's trauma bonding. Here's how to unwind it and go.
May 30, 2026
Plato's Symposium on Love: The Ladder vs the Soulmate Myth
Plato's Symposium gives you two pictures of love — the soulmate you're missing, and the ladder you're meant to climb. Only one of them is the answer.
May 29, 2026
Anxious Attachment: Why You Know the Facts but Still Panic
Anxious attachment isn't a flaw in your character. It's a threat-detection system doing exactly what it was built to do — which is why understanding it never seems to switch it off.
May 28, 2026
How to Set Boundaries — and Why You Keep Failing at Them
Setting limits is not a communication problem. It is a clarity problem — and Epictetus identified exactly why most attempts fail.
May 26, 2026
The Greek Types of Love — and the One Distinction That Matters
The Greeks split love into separate words. The most useful one tells you whether what you feel will last — or was only ever the first chapter.
May 25, 2026
How to Move On From One-Sided Love (When It Feels Impossible)
You can't move on from one-sided love because you're fighting the one thing you were never able to control: another person's feelings.
May 25, 2026
What Codependency Means — and Why It Made Sense at the Time
Codependency is not a character flaw. It is a survival strategy that outlasted its context — and understanding that changes everything.
May 23, 2026
Jealousy in Relationships: What It Is Actually Telling You
Jealousy in relationships persists long after you recognise it as irrational. The Stoic framework explains why.
May 21, 2026
Autistic Limerence — Why Your Brain Locks On and Won't Release
Autistic limerence isn't just intense — monotropism explains why neurodivergent brains lock onto a person the same way they lock onto a special interest.
May 20, 2026
What Limerence Actually Is — and Why You Can't Just Stop It
Limerence isn't love. Your brain can't tell the difference — and there's a reason for that.
May 18, 2026
Loneliness vs Solitude — What the Stoics Understood First
Most people who feel lonely don't lack company. They lack something no amount of company reliably provides — and Epictetus named it two thousand years ago.
May 17, 2026
Aristotle on Friendship — The Three Types and Why Only One Lasts
Most friendships end without a fight. Aristotle explained why 2,400 years ago — and named the one type that doesn't.
May 16, 2026